I am extremely lucky to be the person that types up podcasts for
The Kickass Life. I typed an interview up with the beautiful
Lisa Nichols, and it is one of the best I have typed so far. I wanted to share with you an excerpt of this interview, and an exercise that I am going to start to undertake. It is really worth taking the time to listen to the whole podcast (link at the bottom of this post). But here is a delicious taste:
....you have lost sight of who you are, you have lost sight of the
contribution you bring to the world, you have lost sight of your value, you
don’t know who you are in this moment.
We gotta reintroduce you to yourself.
So I got at the mirror and I did this every single morning, every single
morning, David. I finished three
sentences and I gave them at least 7 different endings. The first sentence is:
Lisa, I am proud that you …
Now I could barely find an answer because
my son was 3 years old at the time. I
had endangered his life, I had endangered my life, I am publically embarrassed
now because I am calling off this wedding, everyone knows that something is
happening, my self esteem is in the tank.
But I had to find 7 things that I was proud of, and it was just little
things. Like, Lisa I am proud that you are standing here in the mirror. Lisa, I am proud that you went to the
Doctor. Lisa I am proud that you got up
this morning. I mean, I was crawling, I
was crawling. And the second sentence
was, the hardest one, if you choose to do this, this is the one you are going
to want to stop, but this is where the breakthrough comes:
Lisa, I forgive you for…
And oh, David, I was barely audible, I
forgive you for being so lonely that you dropped your integrity bar, I forgive you
for gaining 50 pounds because of your sadness, I forgive you for being so
scared you couldn’t tell your family you were being abused, I forgive you for
not trusting your intuition anymore. I
mean I went deep, I just went crying, when I got to the forgiveness I had to
like sit down, because it took all the energy out of my body. But I had to keep forgiving myself, and then
the last sentence is:
Lisa, I commit to you that…
I was willing to make commitments to
other people, but I had stopped making commitments to myself, David. I did those 3 sentences every day in the
mirror, for 6 months straight. I turned
my crawl into a walk, my walk into a run, and my run into a soar. And it did not take 6 months, for 3 years I
worked just on healing myself, loving myself enough to give myself a better
conversation, loving my curves, loving my hair, loving my skin. Understanding that intimacy is not a sexual
romantic act between two people, that is the second level, third level, in
intimacy, the first level and foremost level in intimacy, is in to me I see,
intimacy, in to me I see. And when I see
into me, then I am willing to see into you, or to let you see into me. That’s why our relationships, David, yours
and mine are so rich, because we can go everywhere with each other in
conversation and dialogue, we talk about our fears, we talk about our
aspirations, we talk about our mistakes.
Because I have come to peace with who I am as a woman, and when you
realise that you will never ever be perfect, perfect does not exist. Excellence does. Perfect doesn’t exist. But that you can learn how to perfectly manage
your imperfection. What I have learned,
is how to perfectly manage my imperfection and to be at peace with that, and so
it’s a journey and it’s a journey that can only start with you and when you
start loving you at a deeper level, at a higher level, at a richer level, you
will begin to model for others how they can love you, and people will be a bit
disarmed because they are so used to treating you a certain way because you
trained them to do that, but when you retrain them, man that’s when life gets
super duper special....
What an amazing lady! 3 "simple" things you can write down and stick on your bathroom mirror, in order to start accept how imperfect and wonderful you truly are!
Here is the link to the full podcast:
http://www.thekickasslife.com/podcasts/300-lisa-nichols-from-the-secret-shares-her-3-step-formula-to-success-and-self-love/
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